Let’s Talk… F***boys!

So this morning I was scrolling through my subscription box on YouTube like I do most mornings and I came across Sarah Ashcroft’s new video called ‘No F*ckboys allowed’ (I’ll leave it linked down below), and it really got me thinking. I like to think of myself as someone who is quite good at giving advice and my friends will always come to me for advice, so I thought through sharing issues like this and talking about them on my blog, I can start to help you guys.

Basically in the video, Sarah shared an article (again, I will leave it linked at the bottom of this post) and it really made me think. Now the article is called ‘Date Someone Who Treats You Like Shit’. There are a few points in this article that really reminded me of an ex-boyfriend of mine, especially the line ‘Be with someone who doesn’t care about your needs, your wants, your ambitions, your thoughts’. At this point in time I’ve been with my boyfriend Kieran for a year now and he’s the most supportive person I’ve ever met, he’s so supportive of my blog, my YouTube and he always celebrates my achievements with me, no matter how small they may be. However, I’ve not always had someone as supportive as him and I’ve been in relationships where the things I’ve wanted didn’t matter and the achievements I’d made were downplayed and ignored, which ultimately just makes you start to feel like crap.

Another line in this article that really resignated with me was ‘Go blind to their behaviour. Make excuses for them and justify why you’re the only one who gets them’, now I know I used to make excuses for other people’s behaviour all the time and try to justify why I was being treated in a certain way and how it was my fault and not anyone else’s. This isn’t what a healthy relationship is about, you shouldn’t have to make excuses for anyone and to justify to other people about the way someone else is treating you, if someone genuinely cares about you, they won’t treat you like that full stop.

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Kieran actually attended my first Blogging Event at The Trafford Centre earlier this year.

‘Wonder if you had just been something else, something more, if it would have been enough for them to change and love you back’. The way my relationship broke down was awful for me and I sat and questioned absolutely everything about myself, I made myself feel awful and made myself feel as though I wasn’t good enough. You should never have to change who you are or be made to feel as though the person you are isn’t good enough for someone. At the end of the day, if you’re happy with the person you are, then that’s all that matters and the way other people think about is irrelevant. Have you ever heard the saying you need to love yourself before someone else can love you, I agree with this 100%! But how can you love yourself if the person you love is making you feel as though you’re not good enough?

I’m lucky in the fact that when I was in a relationship like this I was still quite young and I’ve treated this whole experience as a learning curve to me. Loving someone who treats you so bad has made me realise my self-worth and it taught me the things that I want from a relationship and luckily enough I have found that with Kieran.

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So to anyone in this situation right now or who is just coming out of a situation like this, don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle as the saying goes. Always believe in yourself and know your worth and that way no one can even have the opportunity to treat you this way. You are worth more, always remember that!

Beth x

Sarah’s video – here 

Date someone who treats you like shit article – here

29 Comments

  1. Shannon Baker July 10, 2017 / 7:30 pm

    Love this hunny! I totally agree, you should never be with someone who makes you feel like shit or treats you horribly! I’ve learned that as well just through dating/trying to date! I have come across so many fuck boys recently, there seems to be too many around. I’m so happy you have found happiness and the support you deserve with Kieran – may it continue! <3 xxx

    • Beth July 11, 2017 / 11:09 am

      Definitely! I just wanted to create this post to help girls to realise their worth and not to allow boys to treat them this way! Thank you hun xxx

      • Shannon Baker July 11, 2017 / 11:40 am

        I’m glad you have, too many girls are being messed around and told they aren’t good enough for being who they are these days. You’re welcome xxx

  2. Isobel July 11, 2017 / 7:34 am

    Too freaking right girl! I’ve only ever been in one real relationship which I’m stil in today and have so much support, encouragement and love from my man. But in the past I’ve been on dates and met guys that are complete dick heads shall we say. I went out nightclubbing at the weekend and a guy that I met on my first night out that got my number and cancelled on me that year came back this weekend trying to talk to me in the club, he stalked me on my blog Facebook page that he never even knew about existed, and said in the nightclub, “your fashionista chic” & I said “Yeaa, I know who you are, your a dick head” and walked away and never saw him again hahaa never give fuck boys or any boy that mistreats you a chance in your life if they’re gonna treat you like dirt! Still need o watch Sarah’s video! Loved this post girl! Glad your so happy with your man too!

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    • Beth July 11, 2017 / 11:10 am

      Thank you so much for your comment Isobel! Hahaa I don’t blame you turning around and saying that to him, glad you’re happy with your boyfriend too! xx

  3. Katie July 11, 2017 / 1:22 pm

    This is such a lovely post, I’m so sorry that you had to experience a bad relationship but I’m also so happy that you turned it into a learning curve! That’s so good and I’m glad you’re happy now! You a Kieran look so happy and adorable together 💛

    • Beth July 12, 2017 / 3:15 pm

      Thank you so much Katie! ❤️

  4. Amina July 12, 2017 / 6:35 am

    Such a great post Beth! Every girl should know their worth! I’m so glad you found Kieran and are in a supportive relationship! ❤️

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    • Beth July 12, 2017 / 3:15 pm

      Thank you so much Amina! They 100% should! ❤️

  5. Crystal July 12, 2017 / 1:32 pm

    Great post. Everyone is worth it. I am glad I am in a good relationship.

    • Beth July 12, 2017 / 3:16 pm

      Thank you☺️ x

    • Beth July 12, 2017 / 3:16 pm

      Thank you! X

  6. Kayleigh Zara July 12, 2017 / 2:02 pm

    This is a great post and I’ll have to watch the video, I have read the article you’ve mentioned too. I definetely think being with someone who doesn’t make you feel the way you want to is a learning curve for the future, it teaches you what kind of love you want to receive x

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    • Beth July 12, 2017 / 3:17 pm

      It definitely does, it taught me certain aspects in a guy that I definitely don’t want and also things that I do want so using this experience as a learning curve has worked out for me! Thank you for the comment☺️ x

  7. Chelsea July 12, 2017 / 7:45 pm

    This is a lovely post, I had a pretty horrible relationship but now I’m in a happy relationship and would not let a fuck boy come near me again. Great post x

  8. Hannah July 12, 2017 / 8:24 pm

    I love how honest you’ve been in this post, and I’m so happy that you treated it as a learning curve and now found someone who completely supports you!xx

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    • Beth July 13, 2017 / 9:06 am

      Thank you so much! Xz

    • Beth July 13, 2017 / 9:05 am

      Aww sorry to hear you’ve been in a bad place! I’m glad you could relate to what I was trying to say though! X

  9. Jade July 13, 2017 / 10:12 am

    I love this post!! Every girl should read this, being in a bad relationship can make you almost blame yourself for things when you’ve done nothing wrong and can knock your confidence. I’m now in a lovely relationship and it has just made me realise how some boys in past relationships were just the complete opposite of how a boyfriend should actually be!xx

  10. Shauna Claire July 13, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Absolutely loved this post Beth. I’ve had my own experiences with guys like this and it’s just horrible, no one should have to go through it so I’m so sorry you did. At the same time, you have come out so much stronger because of it and you will continue to learn and grow and be more and more successful with someone amazing by your side!

    Shauna x

  11. Holly July 15, 2017 / 10:24 am

    Nobody should feel bad in a relationship and I’m glad you are happier now. Great points you put across and I’ll have a nosey at the video too xx

  12. Alice Riley July 16, 2017 / 4:33 pm

    I can definitely see myself in some of the points made in the article. But good to see you’ve moved on and found someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated.

  13. Charlie July 16, 2017 / 7:08 pm

    Literally videos like that that just make you super grateful for what you have now. I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly four years and I genuinely couldn’t be happier.. and the previous was, well, it was an absolute joke if I’m honest. But you look super happy, great post!

  14. Amanda July 16, 2017 / 11:38 pm

    This is so encouraging! I’m very lucky to have a boyfriend who’s so supportive of my endeavors. Thanks for the post!

  15. Louise July 22, 2017 / 8:36 pm

    Sadly my other half turned into a f**kboy about 4 years ago after the birth of our son. Before that he was loving, did stuff around the house, supported any decision I made (no matter how crazy they were), and even treated my daughter as his own. Now all he does is complain that I don’t do enough around the house (I work as a blogger full-time so I spend a lot of time at the laptop writing, or outside taking pics while it’s nice etc). He doesn’t lift a finger, constantly tells me I’m stupid, and barely acknowledges the kids. He basically goes to work, comes home and sits on the laptop all night. I hate it. Yet I’ve stayed. Made excuses for him. Convinced myself he’ll go back to being the loving guy I adored. But no more. I’m hopefully getting the keys to my new house on Monday and I’m moving me and the kids out. It’s just a shame they’ve had to witness all this 🙁

    Louise x

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